STAGES OF RECOVERY
Still Tight Inside the Bud: If you are still inside the relationship and aren’t sure if he’s a true narcissist, this is the stage you are in. You are struggling with the continual chaos, soul-sucking, demeaning behavior of the narcissist. Your self-esteem is nearly destroyed. You aren’t sure if there is a way out. If you connect with me during this stage, you can discuss the dynamics of your situation and I can help provide feedback and insight into what is happening. I will help coach and guide you toward coming up with a plan for what to do—remain or leave.
Taking the Risk to Blossom: You are in the process of leaving or have recently left. You are struggling with the real-life difficulties of life after the narcissist. You are in the throes of despair, trying to fight off the intensely visceral desire to return to the abuser. You are facing the post-traumatic effects of exposure to narcissistic abuse. You are dealing with the fallout of the relationship (children, legal issues, financial problems and how to manage direct contact). In this stage I will coach, guide and support you through the extreme highs and terrible lows of this stage.
Moving on to Flourish: In this stage you have to deal with the intense post-acute difficulties of having left and are putting yourself and your life back together. You are ready to let go of the hurt and angry thoughts associated with the abuse. You want to feel healthier and get rid of the toxic pain that is lodged in your body. In this stage, I will continue to coach, guide and support you but I will also move you further, to an all-encompassing, holistic healing.